Statement from First Lady Jenny Sanford
Columbia, S.C. – July 2, 2009- The last week has been very painful for me, my
family and for the people of South Carolina. However, throughout this terrible
ordeal, the incredible outpouring of kindness, support, and prayer I’ve received
from countless friends and folks I have never even met has been truly uplifting.
I appreciate that more than I can say. Please know that my sons and I are doing
fine, given the circumstances. We are surrounded by friends and family, and we
will make it through this. I believe it is how we respond to the challenges we
face in life, and what we learn from them, that is most telling about who we
truly are.
There is no question that Mark’s behavior is inexcusable. Actions have
consequences and he will be dealing with those consequences for a long while.
Trust has been broken and will need to be rebuilt. Mark will need to earn back
that trust, first and foremost with his family, and also with the people of
South Carolina.
The real issue now is one of forgiveness. I am willing to forgive Mark for his
actions. We have been deeply disappointed in and even angry at Mark. The Bible
says, “In your anger do not sin.” (Psalm 4:4) In this situation, this speaks to
the essence of forgiveness and the critical need to channel one’s energy into
positive steps that uphold the dignity of marriage and the family, and lead to
reconciliation over time. My forgiveness is essential for us both to move on
with our lives, with peace, in whatever direction that may take us.
Desmond Tutu said “forgiveness is the grace by which you enable the other person
to get up, and get up with dignity, to begin anew.” Forgiveness opens the door
for Mark to begin to work privately, humbly and respectfully toward
reconciliation with me. However, to achieve true reconciliation will take time,
involve repentance, and will not be easy.
Mark showed a lack of judgment in his recent actions as governor. However, his
far more egregious offenses were committed against God, the institutions of
marriage and family, our boys and me. Mark has stated that his intent and
determination is to save our marriage, and to make amends to the people of South
Carolina. I hope he can make good on those intentions, and for the sake of our
boys I leave the door open to it. In that spirit of forgiveness, it is up to the
people and elected officials of South Carolina to decide whether they will give
Mark another chance as well.
The following can be attributed to Joel Sawyer:
We’re pleased that SLED has concluded its review, which confirms what we’ve said
from day one * no public money was used in relation to the governor’s admitted
marital infidelity. This issue is behind us once and for all.
Now that SLED has finished its review, we believe it appropriate to also release
the governor’s personal travel records to the media, so that there can be full
and complete disclosure and transparency.
Those records are attached, with personal identifying information and
information unrelated to this travel redacted.